So, lately I've been having trouble with my brother. He is autistic, and often has very, very different points of view. He is very interested in video games; which is part of the problem.
Anyway. A lot of scientists and doctors and neurologists research autism, the affects of autism, and social behavior of an autistic child. What I have yet to find is research on the sibling of an autistic child. So, I'm taking action and telling you about it.
From my experiences, many children who have autistic siblings tend to do things that pertain to perfection; not just "one-upping" their less developed brother or sister. In my life, I have found that I strive to be perfect to make it less hard on my parents, who sometimes must reprimand my brother for disobeying the rules. Sometimes I act as a "third parent," a sister who tries to help her brother, but who may look like a tattletale. I often feel extremely stressed and tired, due to trying too hard in everything I do. It's like I can't stop; I try to achieve perfection in most everything I do; whether it be performance creatively or intellectually. It brings an enormous amount of stress upon myself.
As of recently, my brother has become jealous and suspicious of my parents' love for him and I, constantly stating, "You love her more than me," or, "Why do you never get angry at her? It's not fair." But of course, a parent's love for their child is most always unconditional, but as a child with autism, my brother has trouble seeing that.
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